LOW SELF-CONFIDENCE

You are in charge of your life. For example, if your finances are not what you want them to be, you ask yourself what you can do to tap into your creative side to increase what comes to you. You discover what can be done in this situation and make the necessary changes.

If You Have Low Self-Confidence, You…

 – have doubts about your worth
 – have doubts about your acceptability with others
 – compare yourself negatively with others
 – frequently blame others for your shortcomings
 – may act with arrogance and contempt for others
 – may try to prove yourself to others
 – talk negatively to yourself and about yourself, often criticizing yourself
 – concentrate on what you’ve done wrong in the past
 – may be anxious, stressed, and lonely
 – are too nice, apologetic, and ignore your own needs
 – live through others
 – fear confrontation
 – need others’ approval

Low self-confidence is a self-defeating attitude that keeps you stuck in the familiar thoughts, feelings and actions you commonly experience. Even if you have great talents, many accomplishments to your name, and respect from your peers, you know the truth. You’re insecure and may feel you’re flawed and undeserving of any good thing that’s happened in your life.

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HIGH SELF-CONFIDENCE

Like everyone, you have a self-concept, which is a sense of who you are. It is a habit you’ve developed since the time you were very young, and it’s very familiar to you.

Let’s look at the difference between high self-confidence and low self-confidence.

If You Have High Self-Confidence, You…

 – have respect for yourself and others
 – accept responsibility for your actions
 – know that you can accomplish things, although maybe not perfectly the first time or even every time
 – take pride in at least trying to accomplish things
 – understand your positive qualities
 – create and attain goals in life
 – take command and control of your life
 – feel you are capable of meeting life’s challenges
 – associate with positive people
 – focus on past successes
 – are very productive
 – are highly motivated and believe you have the right attitude to succeed
 – are happy and sure of yourself

With high self-confidence, you respect yourself and others. This attitudeis crucial in improving your relationships, your achievements and your happiness.

KNOW YOUR STRENGTHS AND PATTERNS:

 Do you know what your strengths are? I like Marcus Buckingham’s definition of a strength that is defined about what gives you energy. You move through three emotional states: Go, flow and glow.

  • Go: Before the activity there is a positive anticipation about it. It stirs up energy for you. There is also a release of dopamine when you are anticipating a positive activity.
  • Flow: During the activity you are in state “flow” like athletes speak about. Time may slow down for you and you are very present and energized by the activity. You are in your “sweet spot.”
  • Glow: After the activity you have a warm feeling and are energized with the “glow” from your performance.

MANAGE YOUR SELF TALK:

 All of us talk to ourselves as much 50,000 sentences a day. As you think about your running dialogue or story are most of these thoughts positive or negative? If you are like most of us it is more negative than positive and again happens out of our awareness.We unconsciously evaluate our actions harshly, too harshly, and ask bad questions. Like an “internal google search” we search with really bad questions, “How could I be so stupid?” Why is everyone getting this quicker than I am?” “When am I finally going to get this together?” Then we get the bad answers as a result, such as: “Remember how I failed that test in grammar school, I am just a slow learner, I don’t know if I will ever get it together as good as others.” We take these bad answers we programmed with bad questions as the gospel, versus being more aware and asking better questions to yourself. “What can I learn from this, what do I need to do better next time, what the first step I can take for a better performance?

HAPPINESS

Use your energy to create magic in your life. because worring and overthinking isn’t really serving any perpose. we think we have time but in reality is that we don’t really know how much time we have left. let’s drop fears, and chose Love instead. let’s be open minded and live for happiness, simplicity and peace of mind while we are here .

LIFE STRUGGLES

there are hidden blessigs in every struggle

Our life struggles come in many forms. Some struggles may be regarding money, love, careers or about things we cannot fathom. Our life struggles know no age, race, and religion or where you are located in this vast world.

The struggles that we endure in our lifetime might be a cakewalk to others. What is the bottom line? How do we survive our struggles? How do we escape the despair? It’s easy, look inside you!

You have to look at your own capabilities. You have to see what you can physically do and what you can’t. There are amazing people all around the world who overcame their physical issues that are doing amazing things. So, you can’t use your physical condition as an excuse to get out of your struggle. Once you have an idea of what you can do physically you can move on to your emotional journey.

Emotionally, where do you stand? How strong are you? Are you a take the bull by the horns type person or are you the kind of person that has someone come over and literally help you get off the couch? If you are the later, why are you depending on others? Get up and brush off your knees and let’s get going! No one is going to knock on your door and hand you money to pay your bills! No one is going to knock on the door and say “I’ll hire you.” Lastly, you will never find a mate just waiting for him/her to come knocking at your door.

I have been blessed in many ways in my life; my family, experiences and the people that I have met. I have not been fortunate enough to travel; it’s a goal of mine that one day I will achieve. So, I can only imagine through social media, television, newspaper and friends some of the things other countries have to endure.

As I stated, I have been blessed in many ways. I didn’t have to travel by foot to get to a job that took 5 hours to get there. My water comes out of the tap in the kitchen, I didn’t have to walk to get it and haul a big container of it back home. I had food, during my childhood we ate a lot of the same meal every day of the week, but we ate. I had the luxury of going to school.How do you overcome your life struggles? You get up and just do it! You get up and make the changes that you have to. You should be thankful for what you have; you have been blessed to have it, many others don’t! You pray when you lose your inner strength, you ask for guidance in case you lost your direction. You take a good long look at yourself and realize all that you are capable of. You learn who you are and how strong you are. You realize that just because your life struggles are this way at this very moment, you have hope and faith in yourself to change it. Struggles do not know any language; they don’t care who you are or where you live. Life struggles will come and go but they are there for a reason and that’s to make you stronger.

STUDY TIPS

It’s never too early – or too late – to develop good study habits. The sooner you get into a good study groove, the easier everything will be and the more your chances of getting good marks will improve.

Here are our tips for getting the most out of study. 

  • Set up your study space – Your study space should be quiet, comfortable and distraction-free. It should make you feel happy and inspired. Decorate it with your favourite pictures or objects. If you want to listen to music or burn incense, pick a space that lets you do that.
  • Find your best time – Some people work better in the morning. Others work better at night. Work out which time suits you and plan to study then. Don’t study much later than your usual bedtime – pushing yourself late at night can make you too tired to study properly.
  • Study every day – If you study a little bit every day you’ll be continually reviewing things in your mind. This helps you understand things. It also helps you avoid the stress of last-minute cramming. Early in the year an hour or two a night might be enough to stay on top of things. Later in the year you might need to study more each day.

  • Set alarms – Set alarms to remind you about your study plans. A regular reminder keeps you honest and your plans on track.
  • Use a wall planner – Stick a calendar or wall planner up so you can see it whenever you’re studying. Mark it up with important dates, like exams and assignment due dates. Use it to block out your regular study timetable too.
  • Make to-do lists – Lists break tasks down into manageable chunks. At the start of the week, make a list of the things that you need to have done by the end of the week. Make a to-do list at the start of each study session too, so that you’re clear about what you need to be doing with your time. 
  • Set time limits – Before you start your study session, have a look at your to-do list and give yourself a set time to spend on each task. If you don’t get something done in the set time, consider whether it’s the best use of your time to keep going with it, or to start working on something else.
  • review and revise – At least once a week you should go back over the things you’ve studied in class. Thinking things over can help you to understand the concepts and help you remember when you need them the most.

  • Quiz – Get a friend or family member to quiz you on key concepts. Offer to help your friends with their work too. Quizzes are great ways to get confident about what you know and find out what you still need to learn.
  • Make your own study materials – Think up some practice exam questions or create your own flash cards to help you study. This way you learn it all twice: once when you make the study materials and once when you use them to revise.
  • Take breaks – It’s important to take breaks while you’re studying, especially if you’re feeling tired or frustrated. Working too long on a task can actually decrease your performance. When you take a break, make sure you get away from your desk or study space. A bit of physical – even just a walk around the block – can sometimes help you to look at a problem in a different way and could even help you to solve it.
  • Ask for help – If you’re stuck on something, or something just doesn’t seem to make sense, you can always ask for help. Talk to your teachers or lecturers about the things you don’t understand. Talk to your friends and fellow students too.
  • Stay motivated – When you’re studying it helps to keep in mind your reasons for doing all this hard work, like a course or career you’re working towards. It can help to have something in your study space to remind you of your goals. You could also decorate your study space with inspirational quotes or photos of people you admire and family members you want to make proud of you.
  • Look after yourself – You’ll study better if you take care of yourself. Make sure you eat well and get enough sleep and physical exercise. Don’t reward yourself with too many sugary or fatty snacks or push yourself to study late into the night. It’s also a good idea to make sure you drink lots of water when you’re studying.

whatever it is, when you find something that works for you, put it into practise and go for it!